Asked to photograph relative before chemo treatment (hair loss)

HI Nordics

a warm welcome. Apologies that no one has replied sooner.

Oh this is a tricky one! We have a similar but different issue with photographs. My husband was diagnosed with a stage 4 brain tumour in Sept 2020 and made it clear that he didn't want any photos of him looking ill. Fair request. However, our daughter then 20 wanted photos of big life events eg 21st and her graduation that included her dad. A balance had to be struck to try to keep everyone happy.

For her 21st we almost made a game out of it. Her birthday was during lockdown so we couldn't go out and celebrate so we had a "black tie" dinner at home and used that as the photo shoot. In the end it was fun.  My husband had his tux on and my son even dug out his suit. Both my daughter and I dusted off the black dresses and high heels. 

Could you perhaps theme your shoot? Hawaiian shirts or Christmas jumpers- something to add the element of fun into it Just a thought.

sending you all love and light and hugs

Wee Me xx

Many thanks for the advice and support Wee Me! It sounds like a good idea to lighten things up with fancy dress. I know the dad in law and he is very good at bringing fun and positive energy into these types of social opportunities. 

The issue last weekend was the Dad wanted photographs of his “final normal days with hair” before chemo and my partner was brave and took the photos but her heart was breaking and she had to keep the emotions inside. I hope with time she can feel that her Dad trusted her to do the photos (it’s a nice thing).

Thanks again and i like the way your daughter was able to enjoy the 21st with her dad in a light way!  I will get some Christmas jumpers- that’s a great idea!

//JJ