coping?

Hi a123123 welcome to the forum. It sounds like you maybe haven't asked your friends and may be very surprised by their response if you could talk with them.. You don't say  what type of Cancer that your mum has as lots of Cancers now are perfectly treatable and people go on to  live long lives and are well for many years and I'm wondering if this could possibly be your mum or is the future already known for your mum treatment wise? 

hi thank you for replying!

i have opened up to my friends about sensitive things before and have been disappointed by responses so afraid that will happen again..

my mum has breast cancer, which i understand in most cases is treatable but i’m still scared that she might be one of the unlucky ones. 

Hi, 

I’m in a similar situation to you, my Dad’s been diagnosed with bowel cancer and at first my friends weren’t as supportive as I hoped they would be. But I think it’s important to know that often people just don’t know what to say or how to act around the word “cancer”, and so often they have the “wrong response” in a way. 

I tnink maybe if you tell them what you want from them is always a good place to start. For example, I told my friends that I wanted them to check up on me a lot and that I needed a space to rant and express how I felt, but you may feel as if you want space and you don’t want to talk about it. So it may be the case that your friends just don’t know how to react. 

I hope your Mum’s condition improves, sending positivity to you and your family. 

I’ll all be okay in the end 

Hi thank you so much for your kind words, I have talked to a few friends and it wasn’t as bad as I had thought. I’m really sorry to hear about your dad and I hope he’s doing well and that things improve. It’s a tough situation to be in.