Hi,my husband has been diagnosed with esophageal cancer stage 4 terminal. I am really struggling with it, he is coping so well with the treatment and being very positive. Carrying on working and doing decorating etc. I,on the other hand,can't work just in tears most of the time and finding it impossible to think positive. I'm actually ashamed of the way I'm behaving but can't seem to stop it. Any advice or coping mechanisms would be much appreciated.
Hi Famof4 and welcome to our community family.
I, and many others, relate to your comment that the patient seems to be coping well and us not so. I did a great job of "what ifs" and a great line in anticipatory grief - and I broke.
Finally I did a living with less stress course. It helped me focus on the here and now and enjoy what we have rather than mourn a future we lost. Conscious breathing techniques are useful when life decides it is time for another curveball and even relaxing.
If we look at Your feelings when someone has cancer we end up seeing how normal we are - certainly not something we need to be ashamed of.
<<hugs>>
Steve
