Seeing my dad decline

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My dad was diagnosed with oesophageal cancer in July, unfortunately it had already spread to his liver. He has had chemo since august but recently needed to be admitted due to a PE and chest infection. He can’t eat despite having a stent, not due to nausea but he just has no appetite. And seeing him get so thin is scaring me so much. He is only 60, his own father died at the same age and he lost his brother earlier this year. He seems to never see any positives. I’m a nurse myself and he will often ring me as first point of call and I try to reassure but know what it all means in the back of my mind. Anyway, I’m rambling. What I’m trying to say is I don’t even know how you’re supposed to cope with this, how do you navigate this knowledge that you’ll see them go. I’m struggling so much and trying to push it all down. I can’t believe this is even happening. Does anyone have good ways at coping or looking at things?

  • I feel like I'm reading my own thoughts.  

    My dad has cancer and was coping well but then it started growing again. He had one round of radiotherapy and then caught chest sepsis and ended up in hospital. He lost 2 stone in 2 weeks and has no appetite and is sleepy and quite aggressive. Snaps at us when we ask him to eat. He is only 59. He sits in a dark room all day and doesn't talk. We don't know how much of his symptoms are the cancer, the side effects of the radiotherapy, the infection or depression. 

    Sending hugs xx 

  • I’m so sorry you’re going through this too. My dad isn’t really talking much to us either. He just sits there all day everyday and seems to have no fight. I’m so scared of watching him decline and him not being here. It’s such a cruel cruel disease and I’m sending you lots of hugs too. You’re not alone x