I'm struggling with how I'm feeling since the news: I feel like my thoughts and feelings don't have anywhere to land, and just keep flitting back and forth, emotions all over the place, feeling fine one minute and like I can't cope the next - I feel very untethered. I can get through daily tasks by putting on autopilot and just thinking about one day at a time: but if I try to think about anything other than tasks - like the future, or even about how I'm feeling now - I feel very lost and like my whole framework through which I usually see the world, my usual 'mode of being', whatever that was, has gone, or isn't right anymore and I'm not sure how to rebuild or replace it. I'm not religious but it sort of feels like if I were and then suddenly wasn't anymore. Does any of that make sense? I struggle with anxiety, OCD and depression long-term in any case which probably doesn't help. Any advice or solidarity very welcome. Love to all x
My mum had been having issues with breathing and pain in her lung for 18 months - GPs kept saying it was muscular and even sent her for physio! She had an initial X Ray but nothing came up so rather than investigate further they sent her away - at least twice. Then eventually a GP referred her and she had tests a few months ago. She hasn't asked timescales. I can't remember the name of the type she has but it's inoperable. They can treat with Chemo and Immunotherapy, both of which she started today. So we will see.
She's known for a while but put off telling me and my sister until last Sunday because I got married last month and she didn't want us to know before then.
I've heard there have been issues with treatment in some places, sounds like another example of a postcode lottery in terms of how quickly people are being treated. So unfair.
I'm so sorry this is happening to your husband and family too.
Sounds like very similar treatments, how is she post treatment today?
I am finding the waiting frustrating. They think he has only had it 6-12 months which is worrying that is is that aggressive
I haven't spoken with her yet, I've just said to contact me when she's ready.
Waiting is frustrating, as is the uncertainty of it all. I'm just trying to focus on what I can do to help Mum cope with it all. I hope they get your husband in for treatment soon.
Having just learnt from a friend there will be foods he can longer eat (he loves good food) I am dreading it even more now!
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