Hi,
my Dad was diagnosed with advanced prostrate cancer and we recently found out that it has spread to numerous areas in his body including his bones. Both my parents are elderly and live a few hours from me.
Both mum and dad have commented about wanting to see me more and feeling like they want more support. I’m an only child so don’t have siblings that can help out. My gut instinct is telling me to move closer to them so I can support but mostly so I can spend precious time with my Dad. I broached the subject with my husband and he is adamant that he is not moving. I feel very torn but mostly completely lost and upset. If I move I may lose my marriage but I want to be there for my parents.
a lot of thinking and decisions to be made. Has anyone else been in this position. Thank you for reading. X
Hi Lainey51
When my parents were ill I was almost in exactly the opposite position to you in that my dad wanted me to concentrate on my family and so would not always tell me what was going on.
Has your dad had a needs assessment from the local authority? Your mum I guess is providing care and so would also be eligible for a carers assessment. I know my parents had quite good support from carers and that of course provide a lot of reassurance to us, especially knowing that they were being looked after professionally.
I wonder if it might help to discuss this with one of the team on the helpline here?
<<hugs>>
Steve
