My dad has been diagnosed with incurable cancer, we found out about 6 weeks ago. I’ve been powering through, I’ve had days where I’ve cried loads then days where I’ve felt quite logical about it all. I’ve still been going to work but have been doing the minimum and don’t feel focused or present at all.
Over the weekend my anxiety really heightened and I had a panic attack for the first time in years, I’ve spoken with my doctor today and I’ve been signed off for 2 weeks. I know I need these 2 weeks to give myself some head space, as my friends have you ‘you can’t pour from an empty cup’ but I can’t help but feel so guilty and worried about what work will say/think. My rational head knows I need this time and it’s completely valid to feel this way, I just can’t help but feel guilty.
anyone else had this?
Hi MissBrightside19, I think the way that you are feeling is very valid. I am very sorry that you and your family have received such terrible news. We all need time to process devastating information like this. I am currently signed off with my own cancer diagnosis, the prognosis is good but I have chemo and more surgery to look forward to. It is very hard to feel focused when the news you have currently received is so terrifying. Do things that you enjoy for those two weeks. Take nice walks, eat well and exercise when you can. All the best, Qwest
Thank you so much for replying, I’m so sorry you are going through this awful cancer. I went out for a walk yesterday and it started raining part way through which was very therapeutic. Take care x
Hi
I totally feel for you, I've tried to use work as a distraction but know I will only be able to do this for so long before my stress bucket explodes and I will need to accept taking time off.
Be kind to yourself and use the time for yourself. Work will be supportive and good employers will want to look after your wellbeing.
Xx
You’ve explained it spot on, it all just built up and the powering through wasn’t sustainable anymore. Thank you for your reply, take care of yourself x
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