hi my mum got diagnosed in August with xxx negative breast cancer after getting the all clear from thyroid cancer in July. She’s had cancer 3 times in the last 5 years 2 breast and 1 thyroid. We’re both getting the brac1 gene test done and waiting for results, as my Nan had breast cancer and other cancers and my mums 4 sisters have had cancers. I’m so scared I’m trying so hard to be brave and not cry in front of my children and family. I lost my ex mother in law to cancer last year. I’m so scared I’m gonna lose my mum she’s not just my mum she’s my best friend. It’s like life and everyone round me is going a million miles a hour and I’m just stood there .
Hi Chanelle92
Welcome to our community and thank you for sharing your story - something I think we all recognize on here. The wonders of people being happy and getting on with their lives or sometimes getting upset about something that seems very minor to us in a world we are detached from.
We hear that one in two will get cancer in their lifetime but so often think it will not happen to us. Since I "came out" at work and talked about my wife's cancer so many people have said how cancer has affected them too - not your average coffee break chat though!
My wife has a different form of cancer, Leiomyosarcoma and her's is at least currently incurable but for now it has been made stable and has stayed that way for over 6 years. I did the crying bit - usually in the shower and I broke. Ended up doing a living with less stress course and learned how to be mindfulness - the living in the here and now bit and also conscious breathing that helps when life decides it is time to throw another curve ball.
People some times ask how I cope - well because we do and found friends to help us.
<<hugs>>
Steve
