My sister has just been diagnosed with blood cancer and today she has had a bone biopsy. She is in hosp under the care of Palative nurses and has been allocated a SW. they have been great in sorting out aids/carers for when she comes home but as a family we are scared for what the future holds for her. I work full time and am grieving the sudden loss of my husband just before Christmas last year. I am strong in front of her but inside I am panicking that I won’t be able to help her as much as I should be . I have visited her every day for two weeks after working all day and my whole body feels exhausted so how am I going to care for her on top of work it scares me so much
Hi Barbara h and welcome to our community though sorry to hear about what you are both going through, We often see the "I must be strong" bit - but often easier said than done.
If you are going to be a carer then you should be able to get a carers assessment, often done alongside a needs assessment for your sister. One thing I was confused about in the early days with my wifes cancer was the term palliative - I thought it meant someone who would die soon but many people live with cancer for many years.
Something that might help you is to ring the helpline here, they may well be able to provide advise that might help find some balance between work and caring that might work for you and mean you do well for both your sister and your employer.
Talking is a great way of sharing and I often find the saying of a trouble shared is a trouble halved has a strong element of truth so thank you for posting on here.
<<hugs>>
Steve
