So glad I found this group - my journey is probably a little different from most - my sister has brain cancer and I’m struggling- she lives in london and I live in Australia- I went to spend time with her pre covid and it didn’t go very well - one of the tumours is affecting her attitude- anyway I came back home and communicate regularly via text and FaceTime - she is rapidly deteriorating and has has various issues and stays in hospital- I have booked and canceled three flights so far - the highs are highs and the lows and very low - the distance makes it so hard - I’m struggling! My mum keeps me updated but my sister doesn’t want any or minimal contact with me - I’m sure it’s the big sister thing trying to protect me! I’ve read so many - end of life stages articles- but they are not very clear - I just feel I need some kind of timeline so I can mentally prepare myself
Hi Worriedinoz
Sorry to hear about your sister, I do certainly get the "protection" thing as it is something my dad tended to do about when my mum was ill.
I like to feel in control and when my wife was diagnosed like many I wanted to know how long - the only problem is what we can find out tends to be based on averages and some of those are very out of date.
What helped me most was a living with less stress course, helped me to realise I had to live in the here and now and enjoy what we have.
<<hugs>>
Steve
