Hello,
thank god for a safe space to talk, so grateful for McMillan and the community. I am very new to this and not in a million years did i think I’d find myself here.
I was hoping for some advise or a kind ear if possible… my darling pops has been diagnosed with terminal cancer (sarcoma), going through chemotherapy at the moment which had so far done it’s job in keeping the secondary tumors in his lungs at bay. Sadly we recently found out the cancer has spread to his spine. We are exploring all avenues with his oncologist and remain hopeful. We know he isn’t curable but we hope to give him as much life as possible.
i guess my question is how do you continue to be supportive and positive whilst receiving the support you to need at this time (I hope they doesn’t sound selfish). We are a very close family, my dad is our world but my mum and sister have some what closed ranks and everyone seems to be off dealing with this in their own way. I fully respect that, and now days we hardly speak about it only to discuss his latest treatments, everyone then goes off. I’m lucky to have a close group of friends but it’s not the same as having your family around you. I’m struggling to process things, people keep saying “live in the moment” which I agree with but how do you deal with what feels like an already started grieving process (which I don’t know how to manage), coupled with the pressure I feel to “make memories” with my dear dad and everything else that comes inbetween.
i feel totally overwhelmed and helpless. As a family we have always tackled any challenges and normally overcome them but this I can’t help fix and I find myself crying a lot of the time, and feeling quite angry. has anyones experienced the same? and Sorry to rant!
k
