Struggling

Hi Annjoebfd626 

That does sound really difficult so not al all surprising you fell overwhelmed. I find looking at your feelings when someone has cancer quite helpful in being able to recognize these feelings and accept them as my new normal I find helps to make them a bit more manageable.

I did a living with less stress course that really helped me. Perhaps the biggest element in terms of your post was the section on conscious breathing - that old message of taking a step back and taking a deep breath before facing the latest problem.

<<hugs>>

Steve

Hi,

I can relate, I have been struggling too. My lovely dad died earlier this year from cancer. Now my precious mam has got stage 3, grade 3 womb cancer. She has had the op but it wasn’t a complete success as they were unable to take the lymph nodes. She has been advised to have chemo snd radiotherapy but has refused it. It was horrendous seeing my dad fade away. I can’t bear the thought of my mam being ill & suffering. The prospect of losing my mam too feels too much to bear. 

Hi, 

i can relate I’ve been struggling a lot with my mums diagnosis and chemo journey so please don’t feel alone. Always here if you want a chat and just know that you’re not alone x

Hi,

My mum has said she’ll “take her chances”. From everything I’ve found out the odds aren’t in her favour. The registrar and later the oncologist hadn’t even looked at mam’s specific case, op outcome or lab results until I asked. They were very clumsy in what they said. A student doctor even said “he wouldn’t have chemo”! 

it’s as if mum finds its easier to pretend its not happening. Meanwhile my brother is cool bordering on ruthless in the things he says. It’s isolating. I’m very worried. I don’t want her to be ill and suffer. We’ve already been through so much with my dad. I think my feelings are normal but they don’t feel validated by the way they are.