I'm ready for the end but it feels never ending

I looked after my mum at her home when she was dying of cancer. My own home was 40 miles away and I had a 3-year old to look after as a single parent. We coped by sharing responsibities,. I looked after her during the day, then I cooked for my brother and her boyfriend who were working during the day,. They helped care for her in the evening. At the weekend they both took over the caring and I went home to sort things out there and have a break. I left on Friday evening and returned Sunday evening. Can you not organise something like this with your family so that everyone can have a break and some space? You also always have to remember that this will end and you don't want to go away with regrets that you could have done better for your dad. Good luck .Ann

I’m sorry to hear you are struggling and are in this situation. When I am in hard times what helps me is that nothing is permanent. The situation will change as difficult as it is now. Completely giving up your life is very, very hard even for the short term. Can’t you work out a day/2 days where you can rotate and share responsibilities so you all get a break and you could have your old life back for a bit to help keep you feeling supported and have some respite? 

I understand what you’re going through. My partner has advanced cancer. It feels like this has been happening forever and won’t let up. I know that I will be devastated when he dies and really mostly wish this was not happening to my love, to us. I guess since knowing he’s dying I have been grieving as I’ve watched his health deteriorate. But caring for him has left me exhausted, isolated from friends and family and emotionally depleted. I get that sometimes it feels like you’ve had enough. 

wishing you the strength to see it though. Ask Macmillan or Martletts for counselling to help you through. 

I really relate to this