I'm scared my mum is going to refuse treatment. She'd always said, in the abstract, that she would, so I was happy when she said she was prepared to do most things to extend her life. But the way she's been talking in the last few days makes me think she'll refuse any treatment, including a feeding tube (eating is already difficult for her). I'm so scared, I'm terrified of losing her, I can't imagine how I'll cope without her. And I'm angry - it's one thing if she dies because her disease is untreatable, but very different if she chooses to die. I know I shouldn't make this about me, but how can I not? We've only become properly close in the last few years - I'm not ready to lose that.
Hi IHopeYoureOK and welcome to our community, though always sorry to see a new member join our special club.
What find of cancer does she have? I ask because there are lots of specific groups on here and it might help to be able to look at how people have coped with treatment for that type - though of course we are all different.
Decisions around treatment can be quite difficult but the oncology team will talk through all the options.
<<hugs>>
Steve
