My Mom has Lung Cancer and I’m scared beyond words!

Hi LisaC77 and welcome to our community, the best club we would hope nobody ever needed to join.

If we look at Supporting a family member with cancer we can see how common the sorts of emotions you are going through are. 

One thing I know I had to learn to deal with was how to make time for me, talking is great and I have found some help from doing a living with less stress course that helped me to concentrate on the here and now.

<<hugs>>

Steve 

Hi. So sorry for you and your mum. My mum's diagnosis was 3 weeks ago and I have been going through hell. I recognise everything you're talking about. I have a brother but we are just fighting (very different ways of processing emotions, he acts like I'm "wrong" for feeling so upset by everything going on), speaking to him makes me feel worse, not better. I wish I could say something to help you, but maybe it helps to know you're not alone in your feelings. Sending you all my best wishes

Hi LisaC77,

My mum was diagnosed in 2018 with lung cancer and I'm an only child too.  It is overwhelming and heartbreaking but life will continue to roll on, appointments etc will just become part everyday life.  You will all have good days, sad days, happy days and normal days.  My lovely mum is still here and everyday I'm thankful for that and we enjoy the good days to help us get through the not so good days.

Much love to you, your mum and your dad 

X

Hi LisaC77, 

We're coming up to a year since my Mum's lung cancer diagnosis. I can really relate to what you say - I'm an only child too. It was incredibly hard in those early stages to get a sense of what the future looked like in terms of treatment - I found that really hard to cope with. The uncertainty and dealing with feelings and emotions that you don't know if they're right, wrong, too early in the process or not enough preparation for what's to come, is so hard. 

Sending you lots of hugs x

I have just joined this community after having my dad diagnosed with lung cancer 2 weeks ago, and it makes me feel less lonely seeing your post any knowing we are not the only family starting this journey. I am an only child too so I know also the pressure we feel to support both parents through this xx

Hi, I’m so sorry for what you are going through. I’ve just joined the forum as we have also been given the devastating news that my mum has lung cancer. She was diagnosed 3 weeks ago but as yet it has not been graded. It came like a bolt out of the blue for us as up until a couple of weeks earlier she had not been poorly or showing any symptoms. Like you I am an only child and my mum brought me up alone. I am so scared, I cannot imagine life without her and I’m finding it so difficult to be strong enough for her. I’m happy to chat if you want to message, it would be comforting to speak to someone who understands the shear panic and dread and shock and denial of everything x

Hello I know this was 2 years ago but I am in the same situation now and I just want some comfort.

my mum has no symptoms until she randomly broke her hip. Now we’ve found she has lung cancer but can’t do treatment until she’s recovered from operation. I’m so scared as suddenly she’s coughing so badly and becoming breathless. 

Even though it was two years ago, it feels like yesterday. I'm so sorry that you are going through this too. How is your Mum doing now? Has she recovered from her operation ok? Is there a treatment plan in place with an expected start date? 

It is hard in these early days to know what way is up. So many questions and very little in the way of answers, or so it feels that way. 

How are you feeling? x

Unfortunately she’s not in a hospice. Her health deteriorated so quickly. She struggled to breathe and coughing so much. Doctors have said cancer is aggressive and with how weak she is they can’t give her treatment. But we hope hospice may help her get strong again! 

I hate to ask just incase but how is your mum now?

That must be quite a shock to see her getting weak so quickly. I don't have first hand experience of a hospice, but everyone I know who's had family there says how peaceful it is and how amazing the staff are. She'll be in the best hands.

Sadly my Mum died last September. She'd been given 12 months and she made it to 19 so she squeezed all she could out of life. I miss her dreadfully.