Selfish

Hi . My dad was also diagnosed with bladder cancer months ago , but now it’s really sinking in as he is very unwell from the chemo :-( 

that’s sad that you feel everyone is avoiding it . I definitely feel like you as before my dad was diagnosed I was suffering with severe anxiety and depression anyway , and he was diagnosed right after I had my 2nd baby . now I feel even worse as my mum And dad were a huge support network . But obviously I am feeling awful that my dad is suffering so much , and completely helpless as he doesn’t want any visitors or anything . 

I am really sorry about your dad. What is common from many posts I've seen and true to my own feelings is a sense of guilt for having difficult feelings and as a sense of loneliness. Everyone deals with things in different ways, some are talkers, some are not, many will fear saying anything in case we upset the person with cancer. Your ok to have any feeling, there is no judgement. I hpe the elephant starts to reduce a bit as it sinks in for everyone. Send you and your family best wishes.