Hi Wolfsbane
Sorry to hear about what your family has been going through, we hear the statistic that 1 in 2 will be affected by cancer in their lifetime but somehow we hope/expect it won't be us.
Your family has encountered a whole range to different cancer types so it might be difficult to identify anything directly in common that could be the subject of a gene test. Another question to ask is what would/could someone do with the information if they had it.
If we look at Supporting a family member with cancer we can see all the sorts of feelings everyone goes through at the time like this - so yes you are normal and not selfish, just dealing with a fairly rubbish set of circumstances at the moment.
Posting on here can help but if you want/need remember you can ring the helpline or reach out to any other source of support - it is amazing how talking to strangers can help in a way where family and friends miss the point.
<<hugs>>
Steve
