Hello, I’m very new to this, my sister just 46 is waiting a biopsie to confirm pancreatic cancer which has spread to the liver. She went into a&e a week ago with stomach pains and finally someone took some notice, did a scan in her kidneys for stones but discovered the abnormalities in the pancreas and liver. She has already been assigned a cancer team and nurse so I know the diagnosis is imminent. She is still in hospital as even after a week they cannot control the pain in her back/ stomach. She is not sleeping as it’s getting her so down, we feel so useless as we are not local. We do not want to interfere and trust the staff but it’s so hard hearing her upset. Does anyone have any advice, she’s in a room on her own that’s so hot and only has a fan. She is mobile so is able to walk and has found some outdoor space in the hospital for the evenings when it is cooler. As far as I believe she’s on morphine but even last night a double dose didn’t give her relief. She has it at 6pm at night and it seems to wear off over night although I know pain can be worse when laying down.
It’s so tough as it’s upsetting my mum that she is in so much pain.
Many thanks x
Hi Cazlam
So sorry to read about your sister and hope things might be improving, waiting for the diagnosis is a very difficult time and pain control issues can be difficult too and of course they impact on sleep.
You are clearly not useless though, just posting on here proves that you care but also that you recognize there is an impact on you - as would be the case for anyone in that situation. Indeed if we look at Supporting a family member with cancer we get to see how normal we are.
<<hugs>>
Steve
