My husband has cancer stage 4 but when family visit I feel like I have to compensate and that they are coming around and seeing the illness and not seeing him, I know things have changed so much and I’m kind of grieving before he’s even passed away, The family feel more of a burden than support as I haven’t the energy to entertain them, I’d rather thembe spending time with their Dad. I hate that they don’t see me as a Mom anymore like I’m something to be pitied. We have really tied to make the best of everything as a couple and keep upbeat but this is exhausting
Hi Pem welcome to the forum and sorry to hear what is happening for you and how that is leaving you feeling. Time for a real up front chat with family I think to see if they actually realise how this leaves you feeling? It needn't be negative but it could be worded in such a way as it is challenging to talk about nothing else and you would both like to do some things together as a family that don't involve talking about Cancer. I imagine that they will not even have realised that this is what they are doing and may well think its the right thing to do, but it may be for them, but its not for you and time is at a premium so time to make good/fun memories that don't leave you exhausted or if they do its for all the right reasons. xxx
gail
