Hi everyone my mum got diagnosed with breast cancer in early May this year, since then she's cancelled all the appointments that will tell us how far it's spread (we know it's in her lymph nodes). Tod
ay she has an appointment with with an oncologist, my aunt who my mum has put down as next of kin is taking her, I'm so hoping they get to this appointment as it just feels like we're in the dark about this and fear that it's too late for any treatment. My mum has schizophrenia and is a heavy smoker, our relationship has never been a normal sort of mother/daughter one, my grandmother brought me up basically. I love my mum dearly and this is really hurting. What makes it more sad is that I'm getting married in 9 weeks and want her to see me in my dress. Just here for some support really as I have depression and anxiety myself so this on top is overwhelming.
Hi Ali82 and welcome to our community, though sorry to hear about your mum - sort of balanced of course with the joy of hearing about your upcoming marriage. Marriage is of course one of life's big events and so I can see how easy it would be to become extra anxious.
For me it is my wife who has cancer, her's is Leiomyosarcoma and it has spread just about everywhere - however she had a couple of rounds of chemotherapy and while they could not cure her instead we have found a new happy place in that her cancer is stable and she is in remarkable health - living with cancer.
Hopefully the oncology team are aware of all your mum's conditions and will be able to deal with them all together. While your relationship with your mother you class as not "normal" - I can see in your words your love for her, she is after all your mother.
<<hugs>>
Steve
