My dad has been receiving stage 4 cancer treatment on / off for a couple of years now which has been a rollercoaster. He is a very independent, proud man. He lives by himself, has a large friendship group for his age and is very positive- positive about treatment and never really complains or lets others help.
He has been off treatment for 6 months and had scan results yesterday to see if he’d be restarting treatment. I asked if I could attend with him but he insisted on going alone (as with all appointments) and the outcome wasn’t great. The cancer has spread and he will be restarting treatment with a definitive life expectancy. However I have learnt this all second hand through him which I imagine was a very difficult conversation and I’m not sure he knows all the details himself. I wish I was there to ask questions. I feel helpless and I know I can only be there and support him but I feel so out the loop. I have of questions which I feel are unanswered around treatment, life expectancy etc.
Has anyone else experienced this?
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