Mum has been diagnosed with breast cancer and I'm in the third trimester of my first pregnancy

Just looking for a bit of advice or reassurance. My mum was diagnosed with breast cancer yesterday, and I'm 31 weeks pregnant. My mum lives with us, as my stepdad passed away 2 years ago and I'm just not sure how I'm going to be able to cope looking after my mum and being a new mother. I'm an only child, so it's not like there's anyone else to support her through this either. Has anyone else been through this and how have they coped? I just feel like I'm not going to be able to take it all on, but what other option do I have?

I so badly want her to be part of her new grandson's life for as long as possible.

  • Hi

    Sorry to hear about your mum but congratulations on the baby.

    Your mum is likely to have something of a journey ahead before getting to decisions related to treatment - and they part can be hard and emotional as people often think treatment will start really quickly - trouble is there is a need to work our what the right treatment is and the doctors will be doing that as quickly as possible.

    You are always welcome on here, or talk to our helpine if it helps. Certainly relate to everything being hard to take in, but you are very right that it is something we just have to do and I am sure you will surprise yourself at how strong you can be.



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  • Hey my mum was diagnosed the day my baby was born. It took me a while to figure it out and to be honest not sure I have actually got through it but until you know how far, what the plan is it’s a horrible waiting game and it’s awful but … the baby will (in my opinion and in our house) bring so much light and life to your family that it will help any hurt and help them get through any treatment they have to have. Good luck x

  • Thank you sozzle001 - I really appreciate you sharing your story