Hi,
My dad was recently diagnosed with advanced bowel cancer, which has spread to 90% of the liver. It came as a huge shock to us as he has always been very healthy and never ill. At the age of 70, he was extremely active until the beginning of 2022. He suddenly became really tired and the GP referred him to a consultant who then diagnosed the cancer. He’s on his first session of palliative chemo (privately) and is suffering some nervous system side effects and keeps falling, which landed him in A&E on Saturday with a nasty gash to his head. I live abroad and am only here for a short period, although returning again for a week or so in about a month’s time. I’m really upset to see my dad who was at Christmas running about as usual and who now struggles to stand up by himself. The oncologist said we won’t know whether the chemo has helped until he’s done 6 sessions, so finishing in July. I’m struggling to see how he/we will cope til then. I’m worried for my mum too. She’s strong and healthy but she’s taking on a lot and it’’s difficult to support her from afar and she doesn’t accept health easily.
Wondering if anyone has any similar experiences?
Hi L54321 and welcome to our community though sorry to hear about your dad.
I can understand how you might be worried about your mum, she is of course eligible for support as a carer and her local authority should do a carers assessment for her as well as a needs assessment for your dad. This would help to ensure that the best support is in place and might help your mum accept the right help to make life easier for both of them and might help to reassure you too,
<<hugs>>
Steve
