Mum has deteriorated quickly!

I live at home with my Mum and Dad who are 85 and nearly 86. I apologise for the long post!

My Mum was diagnosed with Womb Cancer last July (2021) when she was 84 after some months of post menopausal bleeding and a large mass which she expelled in June and had a full hysterectomy and everything removed in a surgery in September 2021. At the MDT meeting in October they staged and graded her cancer as 3C2 and also said that in a follow up consultation in November that some cells were on her bowel lining and in the sigmoid rectum and that they may have done a bowel resection alongside her hysterectomy surgery but as this was major surgery and not in her best interest they did not go ahead.

She had 5 out of 6 cycles of chemotherapy (Carboplatin) every three weeks from December and had another CT scan on 25th February. She saw the oncologist on 12th March who said that the scan showed the cancer cells had now spread into the womb area and around the bowel area (not in the bowel). We were told that the chemotherapy had not worked to clear the cells and the cancer had grown anyway. The oncologist prescribed Letrozole hormone tablets to help shrink the cancer cells. My Mum also had a blood transfusion of 2 units of blood.

In the last three weeks or so my Mum has not been eating much and had not been able to go to the toilet and there had been some blood.

We has started to have discussions about the Community Pallative Care Team and a referral was being made last week. My Mum had a bloated tummy in the last few days and had been feeling nauseous. She had a consultation appointment with her oncologist on Tuesday this week and they had said they thought that was a sign that the cancer may have spread and could be fluid and was saying about an ultrasound scan.

Fast forward to yesterday and my Mum is vomiting up what looks like dark liquid and continues being sick. We take her into the acute oncology ward and after a scan and putting her on drips for anti sickness and then antibiotics they say she has a bowel obstruction at both ends of the small and large bowel and that is why she is blocked and is going to need major surgery - and maybe a stoma bag to make her more comfortable so she can eat and come home or not fo the surgery and then it is maybe a poor outlook. She has a NG tube and a catheter and she looks so poorly.

We are currently waiting for the surgical team to call us so we can go to the hospital and they tell us because they were having a meeting. I am so worried for my Dad who is nearly 86 and the rest of my family! I am not ready to lose my Mum yet.