Hi, new to the group.
My grandma has just been diagnosed with cancer and we have been told she only has days left.
My family are all falling to pieces and I am being left to pick them up. I don't mind doing this as I want to be there for my family and make things as easy as possible for them. But I am struggling myself. The whole situation is reminding me of when my mum died of cancer when I was 20 and is bringing up a lot of old feelings along with my new Grief about losing my grandma.
I am not sure how I can take care of my own needs and even feel selfish writing this. But after my mum died I did the same thing and took care of everyone else and ended up burning out.
Does anyone have any ideas on how I can support my family but still go through the grieving process myself.
I don't want to cause anyone any unnecessary stress.
Hi Sarah49
Well done for coming here though we are so sorry to hear about both your grandma and your mum. You are being perfectly normal - not at all selfish but very self aware.
There is no right answer in terms of grieving but there are several options including Cruse and the loss foundation.
I know when my wife was really ill I found myself running myself ragged and hit that point that something had to give. If can help if we look at Looking after yourself as a carer. I did a course on living with less stress that helped me,
<<hugs>>
Steve
