Really in a low place

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  1. My dad found he had cancer middle of last year and the end /start of this year my mum found she had cancer to and my unlce has had it for years and we have just got told my unlce has only got a month to live but he is back in hospital as he is yellow again and he dont know if he will come home again or die the hospital and i have been helping my grandma with my unlce but i have come home at somepoint but my mum maked me feel guilty for coming home 
  • Hi

    Your poor family has been through so much and so sorry to hear about your uncle, as you know I am sure the yellow colour is quite  likely to be as a result of jaundice. While of itself that can be treated it does not fix his issues.

    It can be easy to affect others at a time like this and I am sure your mum would feel dreadful to know she made you feel guilty. I know when my wife has been in hospital sometimes she might remind me of the need to look after both me and our son. I was poor at looking after myself at times and as a consequence I came close to breaking - helping nobody - 48 days signed off work with stress was perhaps the wakeup call I needed. I did a living with less stress course that really helped me.

    Do post whenever but remember if you need to talk there is the helpline too.

    <<hugs>>

    Steve

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