My daughter has just been diagnosed with aggressive breast cancer. She's having a Pet scan and MRI next week to see if it has spread. The waiting is just terrible. I'm struggling to cope with my own distress but watching and hear her distress, fear and worry is worse. I feel so helpless to help her. She has no partner.
Hi Kacy
A warm welcome to our community though so sorry to hear about your daughter. You are really right that often we have to first deal with our own emotions if we are to help those we love.
I did a living with less stress course that really helped me. I realised I was really good at creating scenarios that "might bw" and I came to realise that I was not able to appreciate what we had because of this - living in the moment can become quite important and I quite like the saying “Worrying does not take away tomorrow's troubles. It takes away today's peace.”
Another powerful tip was the conscious breathing techniques I was taught - useful when we get some bad news or something comes at us totally out of the blue.
If we look at Your feelings when someone has cancer you will see a range of emotions we can go through - and the power of coming here when we understand - feelings of hopelessness and loneliness are incredible common.
You might also like to drop in on Parents of children with cancer forum as there may be others there is an even more similar position to you.
<<hugs>>
Steve
