Hi there.
Apologies in advance, I'm new here and I've posted this on another board but thought it might be better here.
My mother in law was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer just before Xmas. She went in for surgery but they didn't get all of it and she now needs 6 months of chemo. My MIL is one of those "do what you have to do, whatever happens, happens" type of people and seems to have taken it all in her stride. My fiance however, is very close to her and is understandably very upset. She's trying to be strong for her mum but I can see it's getting to her.
Does anyone have any tips on what I can say or do to be there for them?
Hi MIL help
Welcome to our community and absolutely no worries about posting - here we are all friends.
It sounds like your fiance is being totally normal - if we look at Your feelings when someone has cancer it is easy to see about the impact it often has - often described as a tsunami.
We also have a guide on what to say though perhaps the key element is making time to listen. I know when I first walked in to the Maggies centre I had a lot to unload - and there were a lot of tears. I have more cried than spoken to the staff on the phoneline here before now too.
Do post on here whenever - someone is always listening and we all help each other.
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Steve
Sorry to hear this, sepsis is of course a risk with any surgery and you are totally right it can be very serious indeed if not treated quickly. It might help to look at this page from the NHS about sepsis - but reflect that being in hospital is the absolute best place for them.
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Steve
