My brother in law has terminal cancer. I am really close with him and my sister. They live in South Africa, so I haven't been able to visit them since he was diagnosed (which was literally 1 month after I had stayed with them for 6 weeks in 2019). To say I'm heartbroken is an understatement. I Skype with my sister 3-4 times a week and am in touch with her daily. She had breast cancer herself some years ago, and has had other related problems since. Her daughter lives close by with her family and has been a huge help, but my sister keeps telling me she doesn't want to be a burden (this is her 2nd marriage, so not her daughter's father).
I'm now starting to feel that maybe I'm running out of things to say. She cries, I cry, we chat, I tell her how good she's doing, we talk about the practicalities as well as the emotions. I worry it's not enough. What else should i be saying? I love her so much, and really want to help my sister, who is also my best friend, through this awful period of her life whilst also missing the opportunity of seeing my lovely brother in law in his final weeks/months
