Carer for my Husband

Oh my goodness Debbie, you have a lot on your plate all at once!
I'm not surprised you're tired and finding it hard to cope
I know us women find it hard to prioritise looking after ourselves - but if we don't, then we can end up exhausted and ill ourselves, and then we can't look after anyone else anyway...
I hereby give you permission to put your feet up for a while and leave the cleaning for another day!
x x

Hi, thanks for that, I will definitely put my feet up and just tell anyone that asks Firelight said I could xx

Hi Debbie - you are a better woman than me for holding it all together in the beginning. My husband has stage 4 cancer - diagnosed at the end of November and i've been a mess ever since. i have a full time job also but have actually taken today and tomorrow as "me days" so can concentrate on my husband and also my mental wellbeing because i feel i'm almost at breaking point. i totally understand about not having the strength - you should see the state of my kitchen and i just can't be bothered. As for crying - one minute i'm fine then next minute in floods of tears. My GP has given me antidepressants buti genuinely dont know if they are helping or not. Our next round of hospital stuff starts on monday with a meeting with the professor, followed later that week by 3 days of chemo as an inpatient - his first round turned into 8 days so my expectations are not high that he will be home in 3. Have you considered getting some kind of care help? I'm already starting to think about this even if for now its just showering etc, and maybe someone could help with your dad aswell. I'm going to try all avenues i can think of to help him and help me. I'm so sorry you feel alone - i do too, but the fact that we are both on here means we are not. I also give you permission to put your feet up - i find just putting something stupid on the TV helps a bit sometimes. Take care as best you can and remember you are not alone. 

Thank you for your kind words, I am making enquiries into getting a cleaner for myself, which will give me more time to spend with my husband, and make time for myself, just talking to like minded people is a great help, because as you say it makes you realise that you are not alone.  Take care of yourself and you will be in my prayers, as will all people that are going through this horrible time.