My mum diagnosed with womb cancer after breast cancer battle last year how do I process this

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Where to start, my mum told us on New Year’s Day that she has been diagnosed with womb cancer… she battled breast cancer last year and after a mastectomy and treatment she was doing well and has now been diagnosed with womb cancer that the specialist says is unrelated to the breast cancer, I am struggling to process this new diagnosis and feel I’ve hit the limit of what I can handle, I’m usually a very strong emotionally balanced person but this is proving difficult. I have questions to ask my mum but don’t want to as I don’t want to add to her worry. She seems to be coping well however I know some of that will be a front for us and she will be petrified at the road she is about to go down. She has an mri scan next week and I don’t know what this is for but don’t want to ask, she has been told that she will need a full hysterectomy as a start. How do I process this in a way that allows me to function at work I have a stressful job and manage a team within our family business so taking time off isn’t an option,and also at home as a wife and mum, my emotions are raging from numbness anger and sadness, it’s a whirlwind, I’m not so what I’m reaching out for but I’m hoping it can help me process I guess, I struggle with talking about my feelings as I’m the strong one at home. My mum is only 56 and I’m scared for her and our family.  

  • What a horrible shock, life has really thrown too much at you of late, totally understandable that you’re fearful and I’m sure you feel emotionally drained after all you’ve already been through. The MRI will be confirming the size and spread of the tumour which will help them determine her treatment. I’d say ask the questions you want to, I’d rather my daughter asked me than worried alone, I’m still her mum even though I also have cancer and your mum would want you to speak to her I’m sure, my closeness to my daughter is everything to me, I’m sure your mum feels the same. Please also use the Macmillan helpline, it’s there for you and it’s so helpful to talk to people who understand but also don’t know you or judge. All the best to you and your mum x