Hi,
My mum was told two weeks ago that she has bowel cancer. We found out today that it has spread to her liver and her lungs and that the tumour is attached to her bladder. We’ve gone from being terrified with hope that surgery will end this nightmare, to what feels like no hope at all. She’s 59 years old. She hasn’t even retired yet. She has so much life left to live and three beautiful grandchildren and husband who deserve to watch her grow old. I am utterly devastated and completely terrified of loosing her and I don’t see how I can possibly have the strength to get through this. Where do I even begin to process this?
hi Sigourney and welcome to our community though so sorry to hear about your mum.
Most people find the time from diagnosis to start of treatment some of the most challenging time of the entire process. If we look at Supporting a family member with cancer and especially the bit about our emotions we can see just how common these feelings are.
For me it is my wife with cancer and I ended up doing a living with less stress course. One of the key messages I got from that is perhaps best summed up in a quote from Randy Armstrong “Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles. It takes away today’s peace.” and for many of us we find dealing with issues day by day of even hour by hour is a way to cope. Posting on here too can help to make us feel less alone that is often an issue where we can often feel disconnected from everyone around us.
<<hugs>>
Steve
