Hi all

Hi all. I am new to this. I have a history of putting way too much into situations and then running out of energy. My friend has been ill for so long. I have put soooo much into her - texting, calling, talking about the way she feels. I now feel like I have over done it and that I am emotionally exhausted which isn’t helped by the fact that she said her treatment was finished and now it’s been extended by around 6 months. I don’t know al the ins and outs and feel like there is this huge drain on my resources all the time. I have a chronic mental health conditions and am just getting over being hospitalised and being unable to work 3 years ago. I want to be there for my friend but I am also starting to feel angry with her. I don’t know why - it makes no sense but I think it’s something with just wanting some certainty and for this not to go on and on for ever. I am not the only one feeling like this- our other friend has said she doesn’t know how to help any more. My friend is not very vocal about anything and is leaving us to work out all the logistics in terms of getting her out, what she can and can’t do with vivid and it’s really annoying us. We know she can’t do much but she needs to tell us what she CAN do so we can try and make some plans - otherwise she sees no one at all. I feel responsible for her and it’s really unpleasant. I know all this seems very selfish but I just wish she would say thank you and that she’s noticed how much of an effort we have all made for her. It’s like she’s totally oblivious. Thanks so much.