Recent diagnosis

I'm really sorry to hear about your Mum's diagnosis. My Mum was also diagnosed with lung cancer around the same time. 

It's really hard to put a brave face on it and I've been questioning whether I should do that or just be true to myself. A friend recently said to me that I needed to be brave and positive for Mum. It's widely believed that a positive outlook will, if nothing else, help a little in coping mentally with it all. 

Sorry to hear about your mum.  It is really hard as you want to do what you can to help and support them.  At the moment I think I am still coming to terms with both the early diagnosis and the most recent one.  

Absolutely, it's a hard balance to find. I find there are good days and bad days. Maybe for you at the moment is a series of bad days and things will, not get easier, but become more manageable for a time. 

Make sure you look after yourself too though - it's a bit cliche but making sure you get enough sleep and eating properly. In the early days of Mum's diagnosis I didn't shower for days, stopped eating proper meals and was up at all hours of the morning and I found that all made it harder. 

It probably hasn’t helped that I fractured my humerus on 31/10, had an operation to put in a plate the day after the first diagnosis and have been struggling to sleep properly since.  Doing physio so hopefully things will get back to normal and I will be able to sleep more comfortably.