Hi, my mum was diagnosed with cancer 2 years ago and her tumour was removed by surgery; however we found out this summer it is back and has spread to 4 different areas. She started chemo and seemed very well however after 4 sessions they did a scan to find it was having no effect and the tumours had still continued to grow. We are now waiting to hear what they will advise, it might be a different type of chemo drug.
I am really struggling to come to terms with it, after feeling that she was well I almost forgot what was happening / put it to the back of my head so to get this new news it has been really hard to understand and process.
I am feeling so low, scared, anxious etc and taking it out on my partner who can’t seem to do anything right. I wondered if anyone had any advice as to how to deal with this? I feel too young to be dealing with this but equally know it doesn’t get easier whatever the age, but ultimately I just feel very alone and like no one understands. Any advice and tips on coping would be greatly appreciated, thanks.
Hi Runner93
So sorry to hear about your mum though like you I would guess the next bet may well be to try a different chemotherapy drug. If you look at the pages on whatever type of cancer she has they is likely to be a lot of information there and you could even join the specific group where they are likely to be people at all stages.
For me with my wife's cancer I ended up doing a living with less stress course and it was really helpful to me. I learned that I was painting a really bad picture of the future and worrying how I would cope after an event I could not control and that stopped me enjoying the here and now. I also learnt that however much I prepared things would still come out of the blue and disrupt any plans we had - the breathing exercises we learnt were great in helping to deal with these.
If we look at Your feelings when someone has cancer I know I recognize lots of things I went through including that sense of loneliness. It can be amazing how sharing with strangers through here can help us to find a connection.
<<hugs>>
Steve
