my husband starts his first chemotherapy next week he has had a right hemi colectomy. but they found some in his lymph nodes . stage 3
has anyone been through this . I just want to be there and support him through it . I also have to have surgery after Christmas. we are struggling really with what we are both dealing with together.
we can't do Christmas, he can't socialize have other people been told that .?
and how have you and your family coped . 3mth of treatment .
Hello Hers
Thank you for taking the time to reach out here, and although I do not have any real knowledge of bowel cancer or procedures that are undertaking I do understand what it is like to be frightened, to struggle with thoughts, feelings and others emotions as well as my own, and I wanted to respond to your post in the hope that someone who has more experience of what you are going through may respond also.
When my husband was diagnosed, he was supposed to isolate also due to covid and getting ready for chemo. This is not so simple in our case, we have one of our daughters, her partner and their children live with us, work and school had to be gone to and we decided that as long as we kept precaution we would allow other family to visit.. Dal's Mum and his brother lived across the road, my other daughters and their families all 5 minutes away.. we are close and they needed to be involved. For us we had also been advised that my husband was on a 4 to 12 month prognosis.. so he decided he would live his way... everything in moderation and with consideration.
I don't know why you have been given the advice you have been given and if you are not sure of the reasons behind that request then ask, because you both need support, having no one else around at a time when you need others will be difficult, but knowing the reasons why that is being asked of you may make it easier.
Take care
Lowe'
