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Hi Zoologist.

I'm really sorry to hear about your dad. 

When you say you were experiencing social anxiety and depression, how have you found your dad's diagnosis affecting this?

Take care.

Hi Zoologist,

I'm really sorry to hear about your dad.

I cam completely relate. My dad got diagnosed with stomach cancer a couple of weeks ago, and found out a week later that it has spread. We don't know the extent yet as we are waiting for his oncologist appointment on friday.

I suffer with anxiety as well and also OCD and can completely understand how this makes it so much harder to cope with. 

I cant stop worrying and hate waking up in the mornings. I google non-stop in the hope that I will find something reassuring, but usually just end up finding things that make me worry more.

If you're anything like me, I find I don't want the hospital appointments with the results to come, because at least I can hold on to a tiny bit of hope that way.

I really hope you have got someone who can support you through this difficult time. 

I find it comforting talking to people on hear and reading other people's posts, to know that we are not alone. X

I compleatly understand, I have severe depression anxiety and am awaiting an ADHD diagnosis and my mum has possible cancer in the lung and rectum, this month had been the worst time of my life and I was already at my limit so I actually have no idea how I've managed to get this far.

All I will say is don't expect the worst, hold onto any hope at the moment and try and make him feel as normal as possible. I know that this is nearly impossible because your head is going to be thinking about months down the line and what may or may not happen but try, if you feel it catching you stop for a second take 5 deep breaths and slow your brain down. The worth thing about depression is the feeling of being in the worst argument of your life and knowing you cannot run away from yourself. 

It's going to sound revolting but I love spot picking videos and when it's to much I emerse in them for a bit to try and quieten the chatter.

Live for now if you can try that restaurant go to that event but also of you need to cry than cry, and you don't have to do it on your own, your feeling will be similar to his. And talk ask him absoutely everything you can ️ one day at a time 

Best way to describe my depression is it's a bit like walking down a street and the streetlamps start flickering and then going out. This news has blown several more street lamps in my head so to speak.

Has the double whammy of making me anxious about dad's situation and lowering my mental defences against my own existing problems.