Mum died and I'm pregnant - miss her so much

Hi

Grief is such a personal thing and there is no "right" answer. Can totally relate to how you are missing her though and add that to the emotions of being an expectant mum.

Your mum sounds like a great lady and I sure she raised a wonderful daughter who is going to be a great mum that she will be proud of. Resilience is a funny beast, as individuals we often need someone to help us - I know I do and then together we can be that resilient team.

Thank you for posting here because now you have helped us to share a little of the joy of you and your baby but also your mum.

<<hugs>>

Steve

Thanks for reaching out Steve, means a lot! I was pretty low when I wrote the above and today I'm riding high on the wave of excitement about meeting our son before Christmas! I expect the roller coaster will continue for some time. Thanks for your words of support and encouragement x 

Hi Tamara,

I am so sorry to hear about your lovely mum. This must be such a confusing time for you with such mixed emotions. I understand somewhat what you’re going through - my mum was diagnosed with a pretty dismal liver cancer diagnosis a couple of months ago and has been very poorly since with many hospital stays and I’m also pregnant (38 weeks)! I believe we are all stronger than we think and we have a choice in life to either sink or swim (this is what my mum always says to me!). I also tell myself I’m a product of my mother and that is what shapes me to be better and be just like her for my baby. 

I know it’s tough and nobody can really say anything to make it better but just know whatever your best is today, that’s good enough. Life can be so cruel and I’m so sorry this has happened.

I am sending you so much love and good luck with your wonderful little one who is a bright light in a dark time. 

x