No Friends

Hello Eph95

It is very brave of you to join this family and friends group, especially when you feel that you are experiencing limited support from your close friend.  Sometimes it is very difficult for some people to know what to say, or indeed when to say it. Sometimes we feel that if we say something we may upset the person, this is often true when the person 'appears' to be coping ok. 

We all put on daily masks, that help us get through and hide our true persona,  but by doing so, others may lose sight of our true expressions. Maybe it is a little like this for your friends?

How are you feeling?

How is your Mum doing?

This section HERE provides some guidance on local support groups, which may be of some help?

It is important you find the right support to you, and in time your friends will come into their own, and be there for you 

Lowe'

I can sympathise entirely with this situation. It happened to me with my Mum who had Lung cancer. Her own sisters rarely bothered about her-apart from the one  who would turn up unannounced, stayed far too long and exhausted my Mum. People are scared of facing illness, especially cancer. The main thing is you know in yourself who are the true friends and who you can share your feelings with. There is always someone in here to chat to.

Really relate to this too. My mum, who also has lung cancer, has had her sister and close friend both 'say their goodbyes' in advance because they can't 'cope' with the reality of what is happening. It's a lot.
Sending love to both you and OP eph95 - here for you both should you need a chat. Love Becky xx

Hello,

I’m in the same position as you, my boyfriend was diagnosed with bladder cancer 2/3 weeks ago. I told my close friends and all of them apart from one has messaged me to see how he is doing, how I am doing or just supporting me. One of my friends was actually supposed to meet me but went out the night before and was too hungover, didn’t hear from her for 4 days and then when she did message me it was to ask if I wanted to go out for a roast. I was so upset and hurt. 

I think that things in life really show you who is actually there for you and who isn’t, what friends are there for you emotionally and what friends are acquaintances. 
However, on the flip side some times it may be hard for friends to understand or comprehend how you’re feeling and find it difficult to know what to say. This isn’t to say that them completely ignoring you or not reaching out is ok because it definitely isn’t.

I can sympathise with you completely on this and you are definitely not alone x

Hey,

Reading this brought a tear to my eye. This much be such a hard time for you and especially not to have a strong support system around you. My mom is currently awaiting her operation and then will begin treatment so whilst this is very new to me, I am always here for you. 

Just drop me a message if you would ever like to talk, and remember, cancer affects everyone involved to. You aren't alone through any of this. x

Mill