Hi there, I’m new to the forum and have been advised by a therapist to talk to others going through a similar thing to me to try and get some relief. The background is in 2019 my partner of 2 years (31 years old at the time) at the time found blood in his urine a couple of times that year and put off going to the doctor until it happened a second time and in September 2019 after tests including a CT scan a large mass was found in his bladder. He was immediately called for surgery and they removed it entirely as well as lymph nodes surrounding his bladder as the cancer had grown into the bladder wall. He came out of surgery with the tumour removed and a partial neo bladder. After a long and painful recovery of over 3 months) with lots of infections) he then went into 3 months of preventative cancer treatment. This year after around 9 months of clear scans we were told that there were 2 possible tumours on his liver (1cm in size). They can’t tell us 100% if they are cancerous but they have said they are fairly confident they are. He now has open surgery this Friday to remove them. I’m his only real support as his family don’t live in London and I’m working full time in a stressful job. I’m finding it really hard to cope mentally. But even in the process of writing this down I feel better. I wish you all well in your journeys with this and am happy this forum exists. X
Hi Karfry87
Thank you for sharing your story, it is often amazing how sharing our stories with complete strangers can be quite helpful.
It is very easy to look backwards and think what if - but that will not change anything. I know at one point I was looking far in to a black future and I could easily imagine things much worse than happened in reality but also other things came out of the blue I had never expected.
I did a living with less stress course that really helped me - living in the here and now was very helpful. Some conscious breathing exercises that are good for dealing with the unexpected.
<<hugs>>
Steve
