Grandparent has passed - how do I carry on?

FormerMember over 3 years ago

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My Nan passed away just over 4 weeks ago from complications due to her cancer, she had been in hospital about 4 weeks before she passed away and her death was sudden and not expected so quick - I didn’t get to say goodbye.

I have always been close to my Nan and looked after her since I was small, so I feel like I have lost the best part of me. We had her funeral about a week and a half ago.

Since the funeral I am finding it harder and harder to cope, I’m only 22 and work as a carer. I’m finding myself wanting to go out every night drinking as it makes the pain easier - I know this isn’t healthy. I’m not sleeping, I’m struggling to eat and I even cried at a clients house today.

I just don’t see how I am meant to carry on living without my Nan, I don’t know what the point to this is - I just feel so alone

FormerMember over 3 years ago

Not being able to sleep myself I stumbled across your post and just wanted to offer my support to you. I can remember being your age and losing a Grandparent and feeling very sad, like you. It’s especially hard when you’re close and have looked after her. It’s normal to cry - part of bereavement, but you’re right it’s not healthy to turn to drinking. You probably need some time off work, help from a GP with sleep and support from people close to you. Do you have other family who you will be able to talk to? Please remember that dying is part of all our lives and so is grief. I hope you soon begin to cope again and see brightness more each day.

Your post also touched me as my Mum has just been diagnosed with terminal cancer and my 2 Sons are a similar age to you. They will most likely feel like your are too when they lose their Gran so your post is helping me to think ahead about making sure they cope.

Best Wishes Laureneffie

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