Hi my dad got diagnosed with oesophageal cancer on the 1 st August and should be getting told on 20th what stage it is,but he has already been told if is stage 3 or higher all they can do is help prolong his life, I already suffer from anxiety and depression so my brain and emotions are all over the place I'm trying to stay strong for both my parents as I no they need me,my hubby has been great but it doesn't stop me feeling lonely,I will helping my mum caring for my dad and will most likely become the carer for my dad which is a little scary,I'm trying to find information on caring for someone with cancer but its been very overwhelming 
Hello Zoeduck and Welcome to the forum,
I know that you would prefer not to have to be here, and I can totally understand that, but it is a place where you can shout, scream and share, and have others that meet similar things going on around them, who understand and are here for you.
I am sorry to read that Dad has been diagnosed with OC and that you are awaiting grading and prognosis, and I truly understand how devastating learning this can be. My husband was diagnosed with OC in May 2020, there and then the bottom fell out of my world, but, he has a strong and deliberate mindset, so we shook it off (as best we could) and we started working on how we were going to get him better.
Firstly there are two main tumours for OC, there are some rarer tumours also, but mainly the focus is on the Adenocarcinoma and squamous tumours. If you have not yet had time to read up on the Macmillan guide to OC, it is HERE
Historically OC has been treated with chemotherapy, radiotherapy and surgery, and more recently immunotherapy has been introduced into the treatment and trials to find even better ways of helping someone with OC, are on going all the time.
Also, historically prognosis was not great, but, a prognosis is only ever a best guess, and as the treatment has changed prognosis has improved, .. please focus on the positives as best you can, they have found the cancer, it can be treated, there is no guarantees, but there is hope.
My husband was told that without treatment he had 4 months, he was diagnosed stage 4 with other organs and lymph nodes affected. He was also given 12 months with treatment or just over, as his prognosis, we are now 15 months in, he has been having treatment fortnightly and although not curable, his condition is under control.
Stay strong, wait for the results on Friday and know that there is always hope.
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Here for you should you like to chat.
Lowe'
