Cancer gate crashed our lives last month, with both my wife and her mum being diagnosed at the same time - they told each other on the same phone conversation.
My wife has stage 1 breast cancer (treatable with hormones then mastectomy) but is facing another major unrelated (we hope) operation in a couple of weeks Her mum has stage 3 bowel cancer ( chemo and surgery) so both are facing a tough time ahead.
It was big emotional hit, and I am now juggling support for them, my feelings and questions, and continuing with the everyday parts of life (home and work) and finding support so I can help them, hence joining this forum.
Hi @tregeddow,
Hi and welcome to the best club we all hope nobody gets to join. I can see how things show as "gate crash". While no cancer is easy it is good to hear your wife is stage 1 - though I am sure she and her mum will be sharing notes even if their treatments are likely to be so very different.
Well done for reaching out that - it is hard on everyone, we often call it a cancer tsunami that sweeps everything in it's path. You seem sensible too in understanding that you may well need help to keep you somewhere in the vague balance we call sane - if we look at Looking after someone with cancer there are some great tips. One I found out the hard way was to make some time for me.
People sometimes ask how do I cope - my general response is when was I given the choice. You are sure to surprise yourself.
<<hugs>>
Steve
