We only got the news yesterday - my husband has Stage 3 lung cancer and, because of underlying health issues, treatment options are limited.
He's to have radiotherapy, which they think might give relief for a few months, and possibly chemo, but we won't know about that until they have finished tissue analysis. Aggressive chemo isn't an option for him, so any treatment is essentially palliative.
It was made plain to us that treatment will prolong his life but there will be no cure, no miracles.
The thing is, I'm in my 70s, autistic, have multiple health problems myself including mobility issues, chronic pain and fatigue..
I'm overwhelmed before our journey with cancer begins. Immensely sad that my beloved will die. Feeling useless and scared in the face of the task I must undertake to make the rest of his life as good as it can be.
Neither of our children live near us. I'm not very good at friendships (it's an autism thing) , so our support network is fragile at the best, practically non0existent at the worst.
Hi
welcome to the community though sorry to hear about your husband but so glad you found us.
We have something in common in that my wifes cancer was incurable from the start, I have health problems too but is is our son who has the autism. One thing I struggled with when Janice was diagnosed was how to talk to Michael about the cancer as so many books talk about cure and we knew that was not happening.
There is perhaps an interesting article on Palliative and end of life care for autistic people for the National Autistic Society.
What really helped me was a living with less stress course, especially the bit about living in the here and now and appreciate what we have.
<<hugs>>
Steve
