My dad just got diagnosed with bladder cancer. He is 65 and generally healthy so came as a real big shock. Finding it really hard to process and understand.
Ever since then had waves of shock, feeling like it cant be happening and that its not real. He is going in for his op in two weeks. Really unsure on what to expect. It is the not knowing that is the worst part. Trying to put on a brave face for him too as dont want to worry him.
Just reaching out to anyone that is going through the same. Feeling really lonely too, seeing all my friends having fun and im at home feeling v upset. I have dealt with cancer before ( my nana passed in 2019 of it, and recently a friend) but feeling a lot more unsteady this time. Just feeling really isolate and alone, as if no one is going through the same ( when i know people do!) ... but again just a feeling.
Again not sure what to do to feel better.
Hello ap2894 and welcome to the community, although sorry to hear about your dad. We know that any cancer diagnosis does not just affect the person, but has a far reaching effect on family. Early days yet, but when dad starts on a treatment plan, things tend to be slightly less stressful as you know something positive is happening. When I was diagnosed with bladder cancer, I tried to put on a brave face and kept things to myself until I realised my family were just as worried as me, and then I got them involved and kept them up to date with everything which helped. I was also fit and healthy and age 63 when I was diagnosed with advanced bladder cancer. I am now 70. This is a great group for support, but if you feel like knowing the path your dad will probably follow, then come and join us in the bladder group where many of have been through this. Best wishes..
