I need some help!

FormerMember over 4 years ago

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A guy that I really fancy, his mum has been diagnosed. He hasn’t gone into too much detail all I know is “it’s not good”. Now I don’t know how to breach the subject, or whether I even should?
Today has been a bad day for him and his head has been all over the place. How can I be there for him? How can I help him? How can I help him (now I don’t want to say make it easier as that will never be) but maybe come to terms with it all? I just need help on how to be there for him and make him realise he isn’t alone and he can depend on me and that I am/will be there for him.

Thanks in advance x

FormerMember over 4 years ago

Hi there Eivor.

I'm wondering if you've tried asking him what he needs from you. He might not want to talk. He might not know the words to tell you how he feels. We are all different and our needs are different. There's a lot of emphasis in the media about it being good to talk but, in my experience, this isn't always helpful. Sometimes I need to just process things on my own in the knowledge that there are people around me who care and respect my chosen way of dealing with things. I will talk if and when I'm ready.

src60 over 4 years ago

Thank you for caring about this guy, it might help you to look at our pages on talking about cancer but like Elemouse has noted it may be that he is still trying to process his own emotions and it might be he is not ready to share with someone else at the moment.

What the future might hold is a question for us all.

<<hugs>>

Steve

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