My friend has just been dx with stage 4 metastatic breast cancer. It's spread to her bones. This is her third time with cancer. The first time I was as supportive as I could be. The second time I didn't have a lot to do with my friend during that time due to just life. This time I am absolutely devastated and I just don't know what to do or say. I don't want to be too emotional as that's not all that supportive and really she doesn't need to be making me feel better at a time like this does she!? But anything I think to say just seems so clichéd and must sound ridiculous to her. She's heard it all. She's seen people lose interest and avoid the topic and not be there when she really needed them. What can I possibly say or do that would genuinely be even slightly meaningful to this wonderful person who has suffered so unfairly?? So lost right now for her xxxx
Hi
So sorry to hear about your friend - cancer is pretty much be definition unfair. What many cancer patients want though is to be mostly treated as a friend and often the best thing we can do is just listen - sometimes the patient wants to talk about cancer and sometimes about almost anything else - spent some time with my wife in the chemotherapy unit and I think we put the whole world to rights.
Sometimes simply saying "sorry" means so much
<<hugs>>
Steve
