Difficult to cope

FormerMember over 4 years ago

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Hi,

My mum has been diagnosed with terminal cancer, started with the esophagus, We only had this diagnosis a couple of months ago and i am starting to struggle with it, not just the diagnosis but with trying to help everyone deal with it.

It feels like the time we all need to pull together we are falling apart and feel like i am trying my best to hold us all together but failing!

As much as i have friends that are being amazing with it all i feel like i have no support as i cant let the ones closest to me know how im feeling as they are going through this too and really dont need to have to worry about me, but im realizing that i do need some help with it all as i have no idea how to help myself!

So here i am, is this normal? am i being selfish worrying about me right now?

Thanks

FormerMember over 4 years ago

Hi,

I am a cancer sufferer who has recently been told that's its back! Never really went away we just kept it in the corner for a while. From my side YES worry about yourself, your mum will pick up your state of mind and although she is the patient she is firstly your mum and she wouldn't want you to suffer because of her. I swear to God that my wife is finding this a lot harder than I am and it breaks my heart to see her go through this.I think there should be more focus on the nearest and dearest. Please seek the help you need, use your friends use your family and tell them how you feel, maybe you need to make the first move and they are more or less in the same situation as you, who blinks first? Don,t worry about feeling selfish, I don't think you are . Keep strong.

gandad01

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