Hi all,
my mum has secondary breast cancer, she first got it in 2013 and beat it but it’s come back again in the September of 2020. As breast cancer when it comes back is hard to cope with, I want some advice
i think the hardest part for me is learning to cope with it whilst I’m also doing a masters degree. Even though my mum seems to be going well with cancer I can’t stop crying. I don’t know why and I don’t know how I can continue with my degree without figuring out to cope with this
if anyone else is coping with a mum with cancer I would be grateful to chat
many. Thanks
melissa
Hi
So sorry to read that your mum's cancer has come back, it can seem like an extra hard blow to have felt she escaped and there is some useful information about this here.
My mum's cancer was only diagnosed after she had died - though not of cancer I would add.
In my "day job" though I am very involved with the research environment and have a lot of contact with people doing M.Sc/PhD and that part of your message really spoke to me. I am sure you know there will be a student support service and I would encourage you to make contact with them and they will be able to help you work out what is right for you,
For me it is my wife with the cancer, I have done they crying bit - sometimes in the shower in the morning, sometimes on the phoneline to Macmillan and sometimes face to face in a Maggies centre - big strong confident man reduced to gibbering wreck. They listened we talked and eventually we found a way to enjoy every day - well apart from a few that are rubbish.
I did a living with less stress course. Learnt to concentrate on what we have rather than live in that horrid world where my wife was already dead. I learnt conscious breathing skills that were great a dealing with the unexpected bad news but also quite good to help me relax. Transcendental meditation though was just not my thing.
<<hugs>>
Steve
