I've just recently lost my mum to cancer. It started off as breast cancer which we thought was treated, a year later we found it had spread to the lungs, liver, spleen and brain. She lived out her last week in a hospice and I was with her the whole time. I don't think it has sunk it. She was everything to me, my best friend we done everything together. I have to be strong for my dad and brother but can feel myself cracking. I don't know how I can live my life without her. I am really struggling. I don't know anyone who has lost their mum at 20 years old. I guess writing on here I am hoping to find someone else who had also lost their mum at a young age and can give me some advice on how they coped.
Thankyou.
Hi
I'm very sorry to read that you have recently lost your mum to breast cancer and I'd like to offer my deepest condolences.
I hope you don't mind me suggesting that you join the bereaved family and friends group where you can connect with others who have lost someone close to them because of cancer. If you'd like to do this just click on the link I've created. You can then join and post in the same way as you did here.
Sending a virtual ((hug))
I am so so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom to ovarian cancer when I was 23. She was my best friend in the world and my person. Some things that I found that helped was writing my mom letters or even talking out loud to her. I started seeing a therapist who specialized in grief counseling. I journaled a lot. I cried when I needed to (which was A LOT) and tried to keep moving forward. At first I didn’t know how to exist in a world without my mother in it, but I somehow found my way. She passed in 2007 and I still miss her, but it’s bearable. You will get through this, I promise. It won’t always hurt this badly.
Whatever cancer throws your way, we’re right there with you.
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